The lady shook her head, and chuckled saying, "I bet you'd be disappointed if your daughters made those same decisions!"
Shocked I told her that we would just have to wait and see what God had planned for my girls. But obviously it bothered me what she said.
When I look back on getting engaged to Erik at 19, and then married at twenty I have absolutely no regrets. I can still remember people being surprised that we were getting married because we wanted to. We were crazy about each other. Many people told us we were too young, we should live together first-even Christians were telling us this!-and we should experience life before settling down too quickly. I realize these people had our best interests at heart, but it makes me sad that such a negative attitude exists towards marriage. Especially young marriages.
Were our early days of marriage difficult? At times, yes. We've certainly had our tough times. I'm sure you can imagine the stress we've been under first experiencing a job layoff(when I was pregnant with Lily), and then Erik going back to school full time with very little income coming in(Lily and Max were both born during this time.)
But who is to say things would've been any easier if we had waited to get married? I've only been married for close to six years, but I think it's safe to say every married couple goes through trials. These trials have strengthened our marriage, but more importantly they've drawn us closer to God.
More than likely, one day Lily and Anna are going to want to get married. It might not happen when they're 19, but it very well could. And honestly if they're walking with the Lord and wanting to stay pure, how on earth could I be disappointed in that decision?
Marriage is hard work. It's certainly not something to be taken lightly, but it also shouldn't be looked upon as a death sentence, especially among other Christians. I don't know what the future holds for my daughters when it comes to marriage, but I want to do my best to show them that marriage is one of the greatest blessings the Lord gives his children.